Dreams of Deceased Loved Ones
Have you ever had a really vivid dream about a deceased loved one? Did it seem as if all kinds of interesting things were being said or implied and it felt so real. Was it really their spirit talking to you or was it just a dream? We must ask, how can we tell the difference?
First, know that it is possible for deceased loved ones to visit us in our dreams. It’s actually a perfect place for them to make contact. For one, you are in a relaxed state so it’s easier for them to get your attention ... no interference and distractions.
For another reason, you are disconnected from the physical and more connected to your subconscious and/or superconscious mind if you are a lucid (clear/feeling awake) dreamer. And lastly, dreams are sort of the mid-ground between here and "the other side" so it’s kinda like meeting somewhere in the middle of a chasm. But just because it’s possible, doesn’t mean it happens frequently. So how can we tell when a dream is more than a just a dream?
Sometimes it's the ones that you least expect to visit you that actually do. For instance, a relative you had barely talked with while living, may be more active in the afterlife trying to reach out to you. Sometimes, they are first in line with a message for you. Remember at this point also that the word "angel" simply means "messenger" in it's Greek etymology.
Here is something you should know for sure. Spirit communication feels very different than a dream. Usually with spirit communication the deceased person will simply speak with you, whether they are sitting on your bed or standing in front of it, or appear to be calling on a phone.
Their message is short, direct, and to the point. There is often a feeling of a cool chill around them, and the dream will probably be more vivid and clear. You will easily remember the entire experience, unlike in a dream where the details are hazy and fade away quickly. When you wake up it will feel like you simply opened your eyes, you won’t feel groggy and sleepy, in fact you could actually feel energized. There are usually no other dream characters, just you and the loved one who departed, mono y mono. You could have a long conversation with them or just pick up a hint of caution or insight into what may be on your mind or what may be coming in the short future.
When you have just a regular dream about a deceased person, that is not spirit communication. For example: "The other night I dreamed that my uncle and I were bowling and I was having a hard time keeping up my regular game ... but then I scored a strike and my uncle was proud of me." This would not be a spirit communication. In this case your uncle, though he may be deceased in real life, is just a character role in your dream ... a subconscious symbol.
When you wake-up from an actual experience with a deceased loved one you will probably be thinking to yourself, "Wow, that felt so real. I really felt like my mother was right here with me." You will be filled with a sense of peace and love ... or possibly even a bit of anxiety if they offered you a warning of an upcoming event or decision that requires you to be cautious and careful of. They don’t usually come just to chit-chat, it’s not easy reaching someone in a dream so there is usually an important message to be delivered to you.
Most often, their messages are of the reassuring variety. "I’m okay, I’m safe, I made it. Don’t grieve for me. I love you, send love to your father" or something like that. Sometimes, shortly after death, they will come to a member of the family in order to give them important information ... like the location of important documents of articles left behind if no one has been able find these things.
If you wish to try and find a way a for a loved one's spirit to connect to you in your sleep, right before you go to sleep, focus your thoughts on the deceased loved one you would like to reach. Ask them to come to you in your sleep-state.
It helps if you are someone who easily remembers their dreams, otherwise it might be more difficult to reach you. You may want to clear your chakras a little before you go to sleep, sort of like tuning the radio receiver. Ask your spiritual guides to help bring your loved one to you.
Also, open the way for that spirit to find you. It may take several attempts and a bit of time investment. There’s also the chance the spirit will never come, not because they don’t want to but because they cannot make the journey ... or they simply don’t know how to yet. We are constantly learning, even on the other side. That’s why asking your spirit guides and higher consciousness to help guide them to you is important. My best to you in your desire to contact someone important to you who has transitioned from this life.
Just a thought ...
~Justin Taylor, ORDM., OCP., DM.
